3. Be an observer. Watch your thoughts and feelings without engaging with them
Anxiety has a means of sketching you in and causing you to engage with every troubled thought that comes in pondering distance of you. It is exhausting! Experiment with standing back and watching your ideas as an observer, understanding that when they are ready, they will pass. Sometimes we have to build relationships thoughts and thoughts, and sometimes we have to stand back and wait for them go forward. Try imagining your ideas and feelings as a bubble, and then watch them float by.
Experiment with letting them be, without needing to change them, understand them, or discuss yourself out of them. Think about them hovering in the air around you, without learning to be a part of you. Just let them be, without holding on too tightly. If they are prepared to go, let them go. Think of it such as this – alternatively than standing in the middle of a thunderstorm, trying to change the way of the wind flow, imagine yourself enjoying that storm through the window, realizing that it will move.
Try: ‘There’s a thought about what might happen if it rains on the holiday. Look at that. Didn’t know that was there.’ ‘A feeling about going to the interview. Interesting.’
4. Trust your anxiety. Know that it won’t hurt you.
There are a great number of reasons anxiety seems so dreadful. Two of the best ones are because it includes a bunch of ‘unknowns’, and because the physical thoughts don’t seem sensible. A curious, strong, thoughtful mind will try to put these emotions and thoughts in framework, because the theory that they are free-floating rather than mounted on anything feels even worse.
You will probably find yourself wanting to know if your physical symptoms are a sign of something much more severe. You might speculate if that ‘bad sense’ means something bad is in fact going to happen. You might worry about the be concerned (this is common with stress and anxiety) – what’s driving a vehicle it, how to you stop it. that your stress and anxiety isn’t a indication of something bigger. That is hard to do but the more you practice it, the stronger you’ll be at soothing your restless thoughts rather than believing the messages they contact. Anxiousness will there be as a alert, not really a prediction. Have the security of what that means for you.
Try: ‘My heart feels as though it is pounding through my chest. This is anxiety. It’s not a symptom of something bigger. I’m safe.’